By Published On: November 12th, 2021Categories: Leader Blog, Resources, Uncategorized0 Comments

In the book, “Is it My Fault” Justin Holcomb shares the following,

“If a church has 400 members, 160 are adult women, 160 adult men, 20 were teenage boys, 20 were teenage girls. 40 of these women (teenage girls or adult women) would experience physical violence in their lifetime. 20 would be currently experiencing physical abuse. 80 are experiencing verbal and emotional abuse (some kind of humiliation and degradation from a spouse or boyfriend). 200 of those members would have witnessed abuse in their home or in their spouse’s home.”

That is a very sobering statistic.

Statistically, there is no discernible difference between the world and the church when it comes to Domestic Abuse. How is this possible, especially among those who would declare Christ as their Lord and as their King?

Is the church turning a blind eye to this issue? Could it be that Domestic Abuse is hidden and we need more awareness to identify it, to offer wise help or know who can?

If the Sunday service that focused on Domestic Abuse lit a desire in you to learn more, I’d like to offer two possible resources that could be helpful.

  1. The first resource is from Pastor, Author and Biblical Counselor (ACBC and IABC), Chris Moles. Chris is a trained group facilitator in domestic violence intervention and prevention.  This link is for a talk Chris gave to The Annual Biblical Counseling Training Conference at Faith Church in Lafayette, Indiana, in 2018. In this talk, Chris shares what he calls the Four Pillars of Domestic Abuse. He uses 2 Samuel 11 as an example of these Pillars. His insights and work in the area of Domestic Abuse has been helpful to many.
  2. Another resource is from Author, Biblical Counselor, Staff Member with Christian Counseling Education Foundation (, Darby Strickland. Darby has counseled many women and men who have suffered abuse at the hands of their spouse. She recently wrote a book titled, Is it Abuse? Prior to the writing of this book, she provided several articles on the topic of domestic abuse. One is titled, Identifying Oppressive Marriages. This article does as the title suggests by providing insight on how to identify oppression in marriages.

Each of these resources will provide helpful information to those who want to better understand domestic abuse.